Doing the Bottle-Again!

SANYO DIGITAL CAMERAI cannot believe I am writing another post about “doing the bottle”-same philosophy, different child.

It will be three years in May.  Our daughter left the only home she knew: an orphanage.  When she arrived to her forever home, she acted like she’d owned the place!  Church was the same-blowing kisses, smiling, and definitely not shy!   Really, our youngest daughter just blended right in with everyone!

However, as I look back now, I see the red flags!

She started kindergarten this past fall; she seemed so happy. . .

But then, the scary dreams started to come.  Last month, she received a doll; the trauma continued to unfold even more.  Suddenly, I had a clingy, weepy five year old who was constantly saying, “I love you, Mommy.  I just want to be with you.”   This week, she told her teacher about her latest dream: babies belong in cages.  And yes, I cried on the phone when the teacher called! But why would the trauma occur over two years later?  At church, she was hugging everyone; I nearly died when she kissed someone right on the lips!  And just tonight, while grocery shopping with her daddy, she went over and hugged someone that her father knew!

These two articles have been so helpful to me: Post-Orphanage Behavior In Internationally Adopted Children & Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder in Post-Institutionalized Children.

Time for a new plan-back to baby mode!

  • Switching her to half-day kindergarten,
  • Holding her during all meals and feeding her
  • Rocking her every night and yes, “Doing the Bottle” with warm milk
  • Reading more books with her sandwiched between mom and dad
  • Removing her from children’s church-for now, anyway
  • And . . . praying, that the Lord will remove these deep wounds, replacing them with His healing power

Psalms 147: 3: He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds [curing their pains and their sorrows].












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